male Spitting in someones face isnt as physically violent as punching them, (sure) but its still a form of physical and emotional violence that would have me smashing the eject button on any such relationship. Thank you all. What will you do if a guy spits on your mothers/ wifes face unprovoked? What have these conflicts revealed about you? When I get disappointed at the way others respond to me or to what I have done for them, I often think of what happened to Jesus on that night when He came before these Jewish leaders. There are options - use them and get out. reader, buckster12+, writes (10 July 2009): Already have an account? No woman with self-respect would ever allow anyone to spit in her face. 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Upon hearing this, the high priest ripped his clothes and screamed, Blasphemy! as all the scribes and elders lifted their voices in anger, demanding that Jesus die (Matthew 26:66). Press J to jump to the feed. for the Q&A section. Spitting in your SOs face is completely disrespectful and unforgivable, please break up with him before he truly hurts you. I would have freaked the f**k out! It probably doesn't matter but what contexts did this take place in? WOW . I won't be surprised if some men come to this thread to ask OP what she did to provoke the man into spitting on her or to 'advice' her to be a good wife by being more submissive and prayerful and non complaining. male When you spit into someone's face it's like saying that person is s**t without throwing a punch. this morning. reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): A This is a bot message. 3. So now that you have reported him to everyone and he has refused to get help or listen, what do you intend to do? And what makes this entire scene even more amazing is that Malchus the servant whom Jesus had just healed was in all probability standing at the side of Caiaphas and watching it all happen! We think of motorized bikes 18) Hence the flurry of road upgrades. He was my best friend. I would make a domestic claim whenever he does spit on you. 19) and forced to develop a touch-based operating system that confounds billions of users, and spits in the face of millions of developers and specialists whose livelihoods have been built on 20) The duet, in sharp contrast, is powered by underdog defiance. Honestly, he is only steps away from physical abuse, and I know that for a fact because my ex used to spit in my face during arguments. Sorry you are going true this oo, but what first came to mind when i read this is: He spits on you and you take it, Abeg if he ever does such again, you too spit on him, infact after spitting on him, carry water and pour ontop his head too. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website. Be done with it once and for all. Instead of being thankful for the gift we gave, he once more demonstrated utter disrespect and contempt for us. I dealt with being abused for over FIVE YEARS with my ex, and it was daily towards the end. It appears that these scribes and elders were so paranoid about Jesus getting more attention than themselves that they simply wanted to destroy Him. I always tell him its not right for him to do that but he never listens, please answer my question before it gets out of hand. It's not too late to call the cops, I did not know that it was considered battery. For if Cooper had apologized, he'd have spat in the face of the integrity of Leyendecker's exquisite capture of the male form 12) they have turned their backs and spat in the face of all other Serbs, recognized Kosovo, just so they can 13) and frustrated queers who eschewed respectability in the name of a greater responsibility, spat in the face of mainstream society, and showed me that it's possible to 14) What Mambush and his wife did not know was that his act of rebellion spat in the face of that alliance. The Fora platform includes forum software by XenForo, http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/50152-our-blog.html#post873339, VerticalScope Inc., 111 Peter Street, Suite 600, Toronto, Ontario, M5V 2H1, Canada. SAN FRANCISCO (Reuters) - A man who intentionally spat at another can be charged with criminal assault, a U.S. In the end, it was worth it. Youre a valuable person, dont let anyone disrespect you like that, it doesnt matter how much you like him or love him, he doesnt care about your feelings, he doesnt respect you, and with time he will hurt you more and more, dont let that happen. Make it happen. I am sure in your mind you were thinking everything is going good, we are working on making this work and then this. Anonymous. I know that with Your help, I can love them steadfastly no matter what they do! Forget the fact that he's good-looking and has a "presence" that attracts other women - that doesn't make him worth more, it actually makes him less of a keeper, because he'll think he can hold that over you to keep you in line, and he'll be more likely to cheat anyway. [Abu Daawood] The scholars stated that the above narration is evidence that it is forbidden to hit the face when disciplining the wife. They are now dear friends, they are more than friends, they are family to me, and God only knows where I'd be without them. It all depends if you value yourself and if you have any self-respect. Dont lie; just hush. Click here to view Rick and Denises US Winter speaking schedule. This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. The issue I was wrestling with was giving a gift to this church that had treated us with contempt for so long. var mydate=new Date() Um, he won't wake up to tend to his own children when they need it, he spits in your face and thinks it justified. 10) Louw says the leaders of today are spitting in the face of democracy, letting down Nelson Mandela and other struggle stalwarts. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. 15) This isn't the first time that global teen media has spat in the face of the kids who make it tick. REALLY. Because that is what will happen if you stay. Where does it come from?? Joe Biden Spit in Your Face at the White House Correspondents' Dinner. Jeffrey Lewellyn was sentenced to two years probation and 50 hours of community service after he spat in 2004 at a patient who swore at him on the grounds of a Veterans Administration Medical Center in Walla Walla, Washington. The word broken is something I can't stop thinking about. You and your kids deserve SO much better than that. }[Quran 4:19]. He actually spit on your face. For instance, when we dedicated our church building the first church to be built in sixty years in our city it was a moment of great rejoicing. You are human, demand to be treated like one! The same Holy Spirit who lived in Jesus now lives in me and just as the Spirit of God empowered Jesus to love everyone consistently, now the Holy Spirit empowers me to do the same! My DOGS were traumatized by my ex. The pastor told his leaders, Look at this puny little check Pastor Rick gave us! You know the options you have,weigh them and make moves asap! Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? But now He was being led like a sheep to the spiritual butcher of Jerusalem, the high priest Caiaphas, and to the scribes and elders who had assembled to wait for His arrival. We're hosting a Reddit Talk Live event on Tuesday the 21st of September at 11am PST (2pm EDT/ 7PM GMT) with relationship expert Kerry Cohen, and we'd love for you to join us! 5) response to a people deep in struggle. They eventually got my car back for me, after telling them my situation. They had lied about us, scoffed at us, and even prayed for our downfall. I pulled my checkbook out of my pocket to write what I considered to be a sizable gift for this other church. I think nearly everyone has felt taken advantage of and spit on at some point or another. He just couldn't stop using drugs and abusing me. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website. Walmart even towed one of my cars after 7 days while I was out looking for a job. Spitting on someone shows a level of contempt thats an immediate and severe danger sign. It all depends if you value yourself and if you have any self-respect. The place they got me hired at would be the place I would meet my now-husband. The man you thought you loved was an illusion. Yeah I usually try and play devils advocate, but spitting in somebodys face is enough to make somebody kill you. WebIf my wife spit on me during an argument does that mean it's over? But imagine how Jesus must have felt the night He was taken to the high priest where He was literally spit on by the guards and temple police! 15/04/2009 12:10. I'm trying to imagine I've never seen her get THAT mad during an argument. Well, of course, first, I'd wipe off my face. Then, I'd quit talking to Intentionally spitting on another person is an offensive touching that rises to the level of simple assault, the three-judge panel wrote. Why the hell should you? Thats abusive behaviour. Id respond exactly as if theyd hit me. A lot of the other answers read like theyre making excuses for abusers. No, out To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. Copyright 2011 Robert Ross. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Our Standards: The Thomson Reuters Trust Principles. There is nothing you could hope to gain from further interactions with this person. I have been spit on before so I understand. They STILL cower when someone raises their voice. By some chance, he thought he'd ripped the phone plug out of the wall and DIDN'T. How to respond when someone spits in your partner's face Look at self Answer (1 of 3): Smile and ask her to spit on other side. Personally, for me, spitting in someone's face and calling them a cunt is as bad as punching them in the face. 1 Like ; Nobody but yourself can get you to the point where you're willing to demand respect or show him the door. So why dont you take a few minutes today to pray about the people who have let you down or disappointed you? definitely in the midst of an argument. If your spouse truly can't control their temper, then you need to leave and stay with someone safe. It is normally used to picture a person who is violently beaten. 12/18/2014 14:56. by sylviaplath Sun Mar 27, 2016 4:02 am, by Smelljasmine Mon Mar 28, 2016 3:59 am, by sylviaplath Mon Mar 28, 2016 7:19 pm, by Smelljasmine Mon Mar 28, 2016 10:35 pm, by Smelljasmine Mon Apr 18, 2016 2:41 am, Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 3 guests. I would not continue living with him either unless he puts a stop to it. Yes, spitting in the face is crime, court rules. Especially when someone does it an Can you think of an instance in your life when you did something good for someone, but that person didnt appreciate what you did? You can search for fatwa through many choices, Marital problems and dissension between spouses. he dont hit me but he spits in my face. You know nothing about that situation. Just as the Spirit of God empowered Jesus to love people consistently, regardless of what they did or didnt do, the Holy Spirit can empower you to do the same. if (year < 1000) year+=1900 Allow them to support you and your children at this time. Subject: Husband spit in face. I'm sure he thinks it's your fault he HAD to act like that. var dayarray=new Array("Sunday","Monday","Tuesday","Wednesday","Thursday","Friday","Saturday") That evening at the meeting, the local church I was visiting announced they would be starting a building program. document.write(""+montharray[month]+" "+daym+", "+year+""). Now isn't the time to be proud, this guy is a danger to you and it could and probably will escalate. I would slap the shit out of her.What a vile action and coming from your wife, Even more disgusting. If you stay, you might as well tell him to abuse you and disrespect you. var month=mydate.getMonth() The issue really wasnt the money, although we could have used the money ourselves at that moment. No I don't want them to, this is not normal behavior, I know that. I was shocked. In that culture and time, spitting in ones face was considered to be the strongest thing you could do to show utter disgust, repugnance, dislike, or hatred for someone. Were you stunned by his behavior? You HAVE to. Here in the US its called assult to spit on somebody. Writing that check was difficult, but once it was written, my heart simply flooded with joy because I had been obedient. "what if the black mark isn't gone after all? We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. And why me? 17) way to lose weight, gain fitness, and test ourselves. So many heartfelt talks, so many dreams. The Prophet said: "The best amongst yourselves, are the best to their wives." Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. reader, Heartbroken in love+, writes (10 July 2009): A What a strange way to render thanks to One who had done so much for them! 16) Republicans rewarded a candidate who loves to whip up the savageness of man, who spits in the face of gentleness. I remember feeling as if I had been spit on and as the years passed, this same pastor spit on us many more times. Don't have an account? Cherry did what she thought was best at the time, thinking her H would change. When someone spattered his spit on another persons face, that spit was meant to humiliate, demean, debase, and shame that person. Need help with your relationship? And remember, the men who were acting so hatefully toward Jesus were religious leaders! The couple who took my dogs GAVE THEM BACK to me, and it was the best gift I think I've EVER received in my whole life!!! As if it wasnt insulting enough to spit on Jesus, approximately one hundred men viciously and cruelly struck Him with their fists. I can't think of anything that can be more contemptuous than being spat on and i cannot understand why anyone will endure/live with such for as much as 2 years. It is definitely unforgivable and you should break up with him. I think you owe your family a huge apology, you were wrong - they weren't. He's coming home in a hour. We both have calmed down. I would like to know if my husband spit in my face to punish me (even though its nothing bad that I do) is it aloud in the Islam to do that, and if not aloud will he be punished. If I could find something else wrong with him, I might not have such a struggle with my choices. He became the perfect husband shortly after he hit me for the last time 5 months ago now. @ op you are the only one that knows where the shoe pinches.am even suprised you're saying you're in england and still you dont know what to do.is there not cops that you can report to for psychological assault?do you have kids?if you do is that the type of environment you want your kids to grow in where they see daddy spits on mummy at will.you can cover up for your husband for as long as you care,when they grow to a state of knowing their left from their right,i bet you will have a lot of questions to answer.secondly am not sure you want your kids growing up in a house where they think its normal for men to spit on women.remember you are their model and they will do exactly what they see their father and mother do,you dont want your son to repeat what his uncivilized and animalistic father is doing.sit down in that pseudo marriage till he pours acid on you.shebi its still saliva on your face,he will soon upgrade.you've talked to him severally,your mom to has begged him and he hasn't changed and your number 6 is not telling you that he doesnt have any plan of changing.dont you realise that theres nothing permanent in life.its either the person gets better or worse..however if you choose to die being a mrs,there are finishing school for crude and unrefined men like your husband.you can take him there and or take him to a hospital for mental check up or report to the police if he spits on you again or stay in the marriage,endure whatever nonesense you see,raise children who will become animalistic and die there.shikena. 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